They say Love is blind.   So is self Love even blinder?? Is that even a word?  How is it that we can see what is wrong with everyone else, call them out on it(in our mind) and yet do the very same thing to ourselves and not be aware of it??  Because of course…. love is blind. It’s how we learn and create acceptance in our life.   Sometimes the first area of acceptance needs to come from inside before we can pass it on to someone else.   The greatest wisdom traditions teach us if we look inside we will find out answers not only to self sabotaging habits but to judging others as well.

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Here is the trick…. you have to be willing to look at yourself.  Most people are able but unwilling.  Why?  Simple…. they already have the answer but are denying their own truth. Self sabotage shows up when we deny our own truth.  Willing and able are the two best companions you have in accomplishing anything.  You can be able and Unwilling, then of course nothing gets done.   Or you can willing and Unable for whatever reason (you tell yourself) then once again the task is put off.   Self sabotage stops happening the minute your truth shows up and you stop denying it.  It is a wave so strong that it knocks you out.  It is also one of the most freeing moments of your life.   I always say the minute you address the elephant in the room, the elephant becomes the mouse.   You breathe easier and the very idea of what is bothering you no longer “Owns” you.   Sometimes the hardest conversation you can have are the ones that you have with yourself!!! Laugh if you want to. I am not kidding.  Finding the courage to talk about what is bothering you is the first step to self love.  Do not be afraid, be grateful for the courage
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The very worst trait about someone not living the best life now is that they know and so does everyone else all around them.   They live in a constant place called Blame.  This town of Blame has some horrible characters that lives there with them.   You see the reason their life is miserable is because ……………………….   Blame has a huge population. Maybe you used to live there to0 .   Did you parents get divorced?   Did someone fire you for the wrong reason?  Did someone cheat on you and you were the perfect spouse?  Did you come from the wrong side of the tracks? Noone in your house ate healthy so why should you?  My parents smoked so therefore I do, even though I can read the warning labels.    Your beliefs about your circumstance are the reasons you do the things you do.  If someone ever told you would never succeed then it was your opportunity to believe it or Not.  The minute you decide who you are and how you are going to live your Life…. is the minute you get to pack your bags and leave Blame forever.  We all know when what we are doing is wrong.  It does not matter if we continue to eat when we are full, or had enough to drink but just want “one more”.  We know when we are not accepting the responsibility for the way our life turn out.   We also know who the enablers are in our life if we are truly honest.  Who are the  people will throw money, food or alcohol at a problem rather than talk about it?  Blame and Shame are neighboring towns.  Neither one will prosper.  Have the hard talk with yourself today.  What is it you want to change?  Is there someone you have blamed your whole life for the small satisfaction of not having to own your issues?  Is it possible to stop living in Blame and move on? Take the first step. Today is a new day.   Living in Blame and Shame are your choice. When you stop making excuses for why you are unhappy everything in every part of your life changes.   Quick question….Is your life worth it?????

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Who is better than you???