We are all guilty. We have all done it. Had an emotional outburst. And sometimes taken it out on the wrong person. Or maybe it was the right person but in that single moment it came out all wrong. The 24 hour rule is all about taking a pause and getting Emotional Clarity. When choosing to not engage in other people’s drama we end up with results that simply feel better. We have all heard of emotional intelligence. Let me coin a new phrase for you. Emotional Clarity. These are words of choice not reaction
I believe and have experienced that sometimes our emotions prompt us to react in ways that are not our true self. People push our buttons and as a reaction..we push back. Totally losing control of the situation. The best response sometimes can be no response for 24 hours and then quietly and in a calm state discuss it the next day. When we decide to take the emotion out of the communication I find it to be more authentic and direct. It comes from the heart instead of the EGO.
Emotions tell us how we feel about just everything in our life. Our intelligence is communicated better when we slow down and decide how we would truly like to express it. I know this concept sounds extremely simplistic . More importantly it works. If the intention in the relationship is harmonious and calm then it will be . It is that easy. The power of the intention is more important than being right all the time. When we have emotional clarity we understand it is better to listen to what the other person is saying and truly hear it. We are connected at a more intimate level. It means that you give the other person enough love and respect to be heard and you want to wait for the drama to pass so you can have a conversation….. instead of an argument. Emotional clarity gives you back the driver’s seat in a relationship and effects everything in your life. When you respond in a way that is direct, clear and unemotional ………….You are heard. I have developed the 24 hour rule. It works. I have shared this with my friends and they have used this tool to encourage healthier relationships in their lives. What I know for sure is emotional clarity is a game changer.
The big question is do you want to be heard? Does your husband hear you? Your mother? Your boss? Your child? To be heard is one of life’s greatest gifts. In order for this to happen you have to be a great listener. Practice the art of listening. Slow down when emotions start to scatter and fly everywhere. It will center you and your beliefs. Listening connects you in the most powerful way. The person directing the conversation will feel heard instead of being responded to. Think about it for a second. Do you hear everything the other person is saying? Or are you already trying to figure out how you will respond? When you listen without responding you are allowing the speaker space and time to be heard.
The 24 hour rule helps with parent/child relationships in the most effective way. Children are not born with emotional intelligence. Their intuition is based on their cumulative experiences. They know if they are wet, tired or hungry if they cry the parent will figure it out. It is when they start to talk that it all changes. Intuition which guides our emotions and is your own personal library of experiences. Allow it to be border-less. The more your experience the more intuitive you will become. Kids will learn from parents to calm down in speaking about their issues. Parents will learn about their kids when they are not responding in rage or anger. It is a two-way street.
Life coaches will tell us we are the writer, the director and the star of our own movies. If this is true why are so many people living a never-ending soap opera instead of a beautiful well written movie??? Maybe they want to win the Oscar for Best Drama! Who knows? To be the writer, you must be willing to edit. To be the director, you need to look at your life in the 360. To be the actor that wins the award you need to be able to feel with the emotional clarity. Get in touch will all of it and I promise your life will change for the better. You will feel centered. There is a unique power in the calm. It is a super power. Remember Shakespeare’s famous quote? “All the world is a stage”
I came up with the 24 hour rule after a messy divorce. I simply could not respond when my buttons were being pushed. I was getting unsolicited advice and angry . I used to be reactionary, now I am not. I am better than that. I want peace in my life. I started to see patterns that would happen. I understood what Buddha said . “Be the change you want to see in the world.” The pattern was broken. Emotion clarity gives you wisdom to see the pattern. So you see… if Peace is what you want…. that is what you get. It is so much better than being right!
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